It May Not Get Better: Stillbirth Grief Guest Post

I am honored that Julia from A Little Bit of All of It is sharing a guest post of mine today for her month-long series for National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, entitled:

Zoie’s Story – It May Not Get Better

Here’s a snippet:

…I’ve heard people say that time heals or that the grief of loss will become less over time. I haven’t found this to be the case. It hurts just as much now as on the day she died. I can return to any of those moments and feel the ripping pain whenever I want to. Sometimes I can feel it when I don’t want to.

The only difference four years out, is in the immediacy of the experiences. More often now, I can choose not to think it about it or feel it. The practice of compartmentalizing the grief eventually becomes easier, until it is almost second nature.  I even look like someone not holding on to any sadness or pain at all.

Others may find that the pain is less, but there is no guarantee of that. There’s also no valuation or judgment of either method of coping with grief. It just needs to be allowed to happen…(read more)

 

Please stop by and read more of my guest post at A Little Bit of All of It.